For the past two months I have been out of town a lot, mostly in tropical places. It is now just one week until Christmas, and I've hardly given it a thought. It was 77 degrees today, and I still can't think about it.
Considering I have a very large family who all live a mailbox away, I'm in trouble.
I've tried to put Christmas music on, but the CD or the player doesn't seem to work. I think I'm not supposed to do Christmas this year.
While I was out of town, my husband, whose favorite thing about Christmas is the smell of a fresh tree, went out, for the first time in our lives, and bought a fake tree. And it came with lights. How's that for instant, artificial Christmas?
When I got home, I put two ornaments on it, one from Hawaii, and one of a cruise ship. I think that will do.
So when we get up on Christmas morning, and for the first time have no children, no stockings, and no presents, I'll remember that this is our Christmas: that we went on a cruise with our children and I got to go to Hawaii. That should warm my soul, if indeed if it gets cold enough to need warming.
It will be a different Christmas.
I won't have to stay up late or get up early.
I won't have to spend my day tripping over stuff and cleaning up after everyone.
I won't have to put up with the joking, poking, and wrestling of siblings.
Maybe I'll have time to take a nap, for all the years I stayed up all night and didn't get one.
Just maybe I'll miss the excitement of anticipation on Christmas morning, the fun of stockings, the bright eyes and yelps of joy at opening a gift, the love and bonding of a family, the gratitude felt for gifts, for each other, and for all that Christmas means.
It will be a different Christmas.
Bah Humbug.
Maybe I won't even make cinnamon rolls.
Sunday, December 17, 2006
Friday, October 13, 2006
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
My Piano and Me
My mother played both piano and organ, and played in church almost all her life.
She hoped all her children would learn to play the piano.
She was gravely disappointed.
With my sisters, I took piano lessons from an old man in an old house on the waterfront downtown. I took lessons long enough to learn to read music. But I didn’t like to practice, so my mother let me quit (shame on her).
I loved it when my busy mother occasionally sat down at the piano in the living room and so beautifully played. I wished I could play like her.
Then something happened. For some reason unknown to me, Mother moved the piano out of the living room and into a back bedroom that came to be called The Piano Room.
About that time I decided I really did want to learn to play the piano. Maybe moving it to a back room gave me the privacy I needed, away from seven critical and intolerant siblings.
So I spent one summer, many hours every day, in The Piano Room, teaching myself to play the piano. I started with a few songs I liked and worked until I could play them. I dug out books of music and tried every song. The first song I memorized and could play with confidence was Moon River. I continued throughout the years to try on my own to practice and improve.
I wouldn’t recommend this manner of learning to play to anyone. The things you learn wrong or don’t learn at all handicap you the rest of your life. But I did learn to play well enough to make me happy. And it exposed me to music of all kinds, marches, waltzes, spirituals, classical, popular and religious.
Sometimes, just when I thought I was playing pretty well, someone would open the door and walk in the room, and I would just fall apart. I could not play worth a darn if I thought anyone could hear me. I decided this was pretty useless. So when they asked me to play in Seminary, I determined to learn to play in public so I could be useful. It has come in handy many times.
I don’t play well; I never have and never will. I learned that you don’t have to be a concert pianist to enjoy playing the piano. It's okay to just have fun. So even though I’ve never reached even an intermediate level, I can play for myself, I can play for my family, and I even occasionally play in church. It gets me by, and I enjoy it.
I know my mother wished that I had learned to play better, but I know she's glad that I brought the gift of music to my children, that we could sit around the piano and sing together, that we learned to enjoy many different kinds of music, and that my children can now share the gift she loved so much, the gift of music, with their children.
"Music is a rich gift of God, and it is in the world to make the lives of His children happier and better."
--Clara McMaster, composer of "Teach Me to Walk", "Reverently, Quietly", "My Heavenly Father Loves Me". "
She hoped all her children would learn to play the piano.
She was gravely disappointed.
With my sisters, I took piano lessons from an old man in an old house on the waterfront downtown. I took lessons long enough to learn to read music. But I didn’t like to practice, so my mother let me quit (shame on her).
I loved it when my busy mother occasionally sat down at the piano in the living room and so beautifully played. I wished I could play like her.
Then something happened. For some reason unknown to me, Mother moved the piano out of the living room and into a back bedroom that came to be called The Piano Room.
About that time I decided I really did want to learn to play the piano. Maybe moving it to a back room gave me the privacy I needed, away from seven critical and intolerant siblings.
So I spent one summer, many hours every day, in The Piano Room, teaching myself to play the piano. I started with a few songs I liked and worked until I could play them. I dug out books of music and tried every song. The first song I memorized and could play with confidence was Moon River. I continued throughout the years to try on my own to practice and improve.
I wouldn’t recommend this manner of learning to play to anyone. The things you learn wrong or don’t learn at all handicap you the rest of your life. But I did learn to play well enough to make me happy. And it exposed me to music of all kinds, marches, waltzes, spirituals, classical, popular and religious.
Sometimes, just when I thought I was playing pretty well, someone would open the door and walk in the room, and I would just fall apart. I could not play worth a darn if I thought anyone could hear me. I decided this was pretty useless. So when they asked me to play in Seminary, I determined to learn to play in public so I could be useful. It has come in handy many times.
I don’t play well; I never have and never will. I learned that you don’t have to be a concert pianist to enjoy playing the piano. It's okay to just have fun. So even though I’ve never reached even an intermediate level, I can play for myself, I can play for my family, and I even occasionally play in church. It gets me by, and I enjoy it.
I know my mother wished that I had learned to play better, but I know she's glad that I brought the gift of music to my children, that we could sit around the piano and sing together, that we learned to enjoy many different kinds of music, and that my children can now share the gift she loved so much, the gift of music, with their children.
"Music is a rich gift of God, and it is in the world to make the lives of His children happier and better."
--Clara McMaster, composer of "Teach Me to Walk", "Reverently, Quietly", "My Heavenly Father Loves Me". "
Monday, October 02, 2006
Long Arms of Mercy
For some time now I've wanted to retire from demanding Church callings and just be the Primary pianist.
I was sitting in Relief Society thinking about this, and decided that I would have to give up this hope. Between my failing eyes, my scrambled brain, and my lack of practice, I can hardly play anymore.
Just then the Primary president appeared in the door and waved at me. You guessed it; they needed me to come and play in Primary!
I tell you this story because it’s not unusual. It seems that every time in my life I think I will get casual, or lazy, or divergent, the Lord seems to know.
"Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it, " yet He always stretches out His long arms of mercy and calls me back.
I tried to do that for my own children.
When one of them would start to act out, digress, or get lackadaisical, I would show forth a little more love. Nothing big or obvious. I would touch them more, listen to them better, look into their eyes more often. I don’t believe they ever knew anything was different. But that little bit of attention and love always brought them back to the center.
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath; it is twice bless'd;
It blesseth him that gives and him that takes:
It is an attribute to God himself;
And earthly power doth then show likest God's ..
- Shakespeare
I was sitting in Relief Society thinking about this, and decided that I would have to give up this hope. Between my failing eyes, my scrambled brain, and my lack of practice, I can hardly play anymore.
Just then the Primary president appeared in the door and waved at me. You guessed it; they needed me to come and play in Primary!
I tell you this story because it’s not unusual. It seems that every time in my life I think I will get casual, or lazy, or divergent, the Lord seems to know.
"Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it, " yet He always stretches out His long arms of mercy and calls me back.
I tried to do that for my own children.
When one of them would start to act out, digress, or get lackadaisical, I would show forth a little more love. Nothing big or obvious. I would touch them more, listen to them better, look into their eyes more often. I don’t believe they ever knew anything was different. But that little bit of attention and love always brought them back to the center.
I learned in basic psychology that most misbehavior is for want of attention. At every age and stage of life, we want to know that someone notices us and cares about us. We're hungry for it, starving even. Is it any wonder that love expressed can make such a difference in a person's day? To be worthy of someone's time or attention, especially our parent's, somehow makes things right, makes us feel more like doing right.
I'm very grateful for Heavenly Father's watchful eye and long arms of mercy.
I'm grateful for family and friends that have helped keep me in the fold.
For those who are straying or lost, I need to wake up and reach out.
The quality of mercy is not strain'd,
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath; it is twice bless'd;
It blesseth him that gives and him that takes:
It is an attribute to God himself;
And earthly power doth then show likest God's ..
- Shakespeare
Friday, September 29, 2006
General Conference
I have many happy memories of General Conference.
When I was a child, our television may have been black and white, but we got conference—all 3 days and 6 sessions of it! It may have seemed boring, but I liked the special feeling that was in our home when conference was on.
At BYU, like many others I occasionally took the opportunity to attend conference in person in the old Tabernacle with the hard seats and pillars blocking our view. If not, then it was on every radio and TV and piped all over campus. It was in the very air.
It’s now held in the new conference center, and we often have the choice of watching it on cable at home in our jammies or going to the church. Usually we opt for going to the church.
I’ve never understood people who think conference weekend is a vacation, or why attending one session fills the minimum requirement for church that week. Don’t they know that “…the expressed will of our Heavenly Father comes to his people at conference time..." ? Alvin R. Dyer CR 10/66
Prophets, seers, revelators and other inspired leaders are telling us what God wants us to know right now! David O. McKay said, "...the Lord has magnified each one who has spoken to the end that his words have emanated from the presence of our Father." CR 10/65
Does anyone really want to miss any of what the Lord has to tell us?
I remember when I started to enjoy conference. It was when I started really listening. As an adult, I listen pretty well now. But sometimes I really hear, with my heart and mind, and not just my ears.
There have been times when I knew without a doubt that a particular message was truly straight from the Lord. I’ll never forget hearing Tanner’s talk on the role of women, Maxwell’s talk on The Not-Yet Game, Benson’s talk on pride, Bednar’s talk on the Tender Mercies of God, and Jeffrey Holland's on the Lord's succor. Truly messages from a loving Heavenly Father.
Conference for me is always kind of a checklist to see how I’m doing. How much I get out of it is part of the test.
General Conference is a time of nostalgia, of feelings and memories of the past, but it is also the thrill of hearing current revelation straight from Heaven.
There is no greater thrill than that.
I surely wouldn't want to miss it.
Tabernacle dedicatory prayer:
"And we dedicate and consecrate that portion of this house where our president and thy servants now are, to be a holy and sacred place wherein thy servants may stand forth to declare thy words and minister unto thy people in the name of thy Son forever...
May the holy angels and ministering spirits be in and round about this habitation, that when thy servants are called upon to stand in these sacred places, to minister unto thy people, the visions of eternity may be open to their view, and they may be filled with the spirit and inspiration of the Holy Ghost and the gift and power of God; and let all thy people who hearken to the words of thy servants drink freely at the fountain of the waters of life, that they may become wise unto salvation, and thereby overcome the world and be prepared for an everlasting inheritance in the celestial kingdom of God."
When I was a child, our television may have been black and white, but we got conference—all 3 days and 6 sessions of it! It may have seemed boring, but I liked the special feeling that was in our home when conference was on.
At BYU, like many others I occasionally took the opportunity to attend conference in person in the old Tabernacle with the hard seats and pillars blocking our view. If not, then it was on every radio and TV and piped all over campus. It was in the very air.
It’s now held in the new conference center, and we often have the choice of watching it on cable at home in our jammies or going to the church. Usually we opt for going to the church.
I’ve never understood people who think conference weekend is a vacation, or why attending one session fills the minimum requirement for church that week. Don’t they know that “…the expressed will of our Heavenly Father comes to his people at conference time..." ? Alvin R. Dyer CR 10/66
Prophets, seers, revelators and other inspired leaders are telling us what God wants us to know right now! David O. McKay said, "...the Lord has magnified each one who has spoken to the end that his words have emanated from the presence of our Father." CR 10/65
Does anyone really want to miss any of what the Lord has to tell us?
I remember when I started to enjoy conference. It was when I started really listening. As an adult, I listen pretty well now. But sometimes I really hear, with my heart and mind, and not just my ears.
There have been times when I knew without a doubt that a particular message was truly straight from the Lord. I’ll never forget hearing Tanner’s talk on the role of women, Maxwell’s talk on The Not-Yet Game, Benson’s talk on pride, Bednar’s talk on the Tender Mercies of God, and Jeffrey Holland's on the Lord's succor. Truly messages from a loving Heavenly Father.
Conference for me is always kind of a checklist to see how I’m doing. How much I get out of it is part of the test.
General Conference is a time of nostalgia, of feelings and memories of the past, but it is also the thrill of hearing current revelation straight from Heaven.
There is no greater thrill than that.
I surely wouldn't want to miss it.
Tabernacle dedicatory prayer:
"And we dedicate and consecrate that portion of this house where our president and thy servants now are, to be a holy and sacred place wherein thy servants may stand forth to declare thy words and minister unto thy people in the name of thy Son forever...
May the holy angels and ministering spirits be in and round about this habitation, that when thy servants are called upon to stand in these sacred places, to minister unto thy people, the visions of eternity may be open to their view, and they may be filled with the spirit and inspiration of the Holy Ghost and the gift and power of God; and let all thy people who hearken to the words of thy servants drink freely at the fountain of the waters of life, that they may become wise unto salvation, and thereby overcome the world and be prepared for an everlasting inheritance in the celestial kingdom of God."
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
High School Reunion
I did it! I survived my class reunion.
I did more than survive; I had fun!
I was glad I could locate my high school yearbook to take a peek at names and faces I haven't thought of in decades. I was glad they put our high school pictures on our name tags; no one was bashful about trying to match that memory with the older faces staring back at them. But I recognized many and could call them by name.
It was interesting to be in a room full of people all your same age.
I thought everyone looked pretty darn good. I was surprised to learn that over 30 people in my graduating class of over 400 had passed away, but then I remembered how old we all are. We really didn't look it.
I won the honors of having the most children, though I was tied with my friend Robin who wasn't there. I was one of the few who had never been to a class reunion. Other than that, I didn't have to reveal much more about myself than where I currently lived.
I learned that at least two members of my class had joined the Church. One was our class clown who joined after his experience in Viet Nam, and is now a temple worker in Mesa. The other was a quiet boy I hardly remember, but who I ended up sitting by at dinner.
I love the saying,
"When you leave a room, you take something with you and you leave something behind."
I think that is true of high school. The people you know and the experiences you have help mold the person you are. You take that with you. But you also influence others, and that stays with them.
I was gratified that even though I have thought very little of high school since I left, there were people who remembered me, were glad to see me, were even hoping I would come. Not bad for the quiet, awkward, backward girl that I was.
The hour's drive to the reunion over the familiar roads of my childhood gave me a chance to think about the experiences and relationships of my life. Amidst the serenity of evergreens, I felt an overwhelming peace about my life. I couldn't think of any loose ends, undone business, or unspent grudges. I'm not perfect and my life was far from it, yet I felt a great peace about it.
The feelings I had when looking at my yearbook were confirmed at my reunion: I went to school with really good people. When I think of my children's high school experiences, the jerks, the language, the immorality, and the drama, I feel very blessed that my asociates in school, pretty much my whole class, were really decent people, and still are.
They joked about us being too old to last the night, and I confess, in spite of my good intentions, I left a little early. I took my only chance to visit my family home on the lake. I was struck again at how lucky we were to grow up where we did, to live on beautiful lake property, to have such good friends, to have such good and pure memories in our later years.
I still don't know why I felt so strongly about attending this reunion, but it allowed me to reconnect with that formative part of my life, to experience peace about my life, and it heightened my gratitude for the blessings of my life.
Maybe I didn't go for someone else; maybe it was for me.
I did more than survive; I had fun!
I was glad I could locate my high school yearbook to take a peek at names and faces I haven't thought of in decades. I was glad they put our high school pictures on our name tags; no one was bashful about trying to match that memory with the older faces staring back at them. But I recognized many and could call them by name.
It was interesting to be in a room full of people all your same age.
I thought everyone looked pretty darn good. I was surprised to learn that over 30 people in my graduating class of over 400 had passed away, but then I remembered how old we all are. We really didn't look it.
I won the honors of having the most children, though I was tied with my friend Robin who wasn't there. I was one of the few who had never been to a class reunion. Other than that, I didn't have to reveal much more about myself than where I currently lived.
I learned that at least two members of my class had joined the Church. One was our class clown who joined after his experience in Viet Nam, and is now a temple worker in Mesa. The other was a quiet boy I hardly remember, but who I ended up sitting by at dinner.
I love the saying,
"When you leave a room, you take something with you and you leave something behind."
I think that is true of high school. The people you know and the experiences you have help mold the person you are. You take that with you. But you also influence others, and that stays with them.
I was gratified that even though I have thought very little of high school since I left, there were people who remembered me, were glad to see me, were even hoping I would come. Not bad for the quiet, awkward, backward girl that I was.
The hour's drive to the reunion over the familiar roads of my childhood gave me a chance to think about the experiences and relationships of my life. Amidst the serenity of evergreens, I felt an overwhelming peace about my life. I couldn't think of any loose ends, undone business, or unspent grudges. I'm not perfect and my life was far from it, yet I felt a great peace about it.
The feelings I had when looking at my yearbook were confirmed at my reunion: I went to school with really good people. When I think of my children's high school experiences, the jerks, the language, the immorality, and the drama, I feel very blessed that my asociates in school, pretty much my whole class, were really decent people, and still are.
They joked about us being too old to last the night, and I confess, in spite of my good intentions, I left a little early. I took my only chance to visit my family home on the lake. I was struck again at how lucky we were to grow up where we did, to live on beautiful lake property, to have such good friends, to have such good and pure memories in our later years.
I still don't know why I felt so strongly about attending this reunion, but it allowed me to reconnect with that formative part of my life, to experience peace about my life, and it heightened my gratitude for the blessings of my life.
Maybe I didn't go for someone else; maybe it was for me.
Friday, September 15, 2006
West High Class of '??
I am going to my high school reunion.
I don’t know why. I’ve never gone before. I’ve never wanted to go.
But for some reason I feel like I should.
I’m looking forward to it. I'm old enough that I'm not stressed about the usual things: I didn’t go on a diet, I didn’t buy a new outfit, I didn't have my nails done (ok, I never do). I'm comfortable going just as myself. And I think I’ve developed enough social skills to talk to people with whom I have a shared history, even if I don't remember them.
I’m glad that I never did anything to be ashamed of. I have no worries about who I might see or what they might remember.
When I was in high school I never hooked up with a particular group of friends. I was friends with everyone in my class. I liked it that way.
But when I left high school, I really left. I didn’t even glance back. I was so excited to be out of there and off to college and on to other things that I didn't stay in touch with anyone. It's been a long time since I've even thought of high school.
I’ve asked myself why I’m going. It’s certainly not to impress anyone. I don't think I'm trying to recapture the past. It's not even to rejuvenate old friendships that I don't have time for.
I think it’s more like gathering the puzzle pieces of your life and finishing the picture. It's about acknowledging the people and experiences that have made you what you are. It's about coming full circle.
I'm just guessing here. I'm really going just because I have a strong feeling that I should.
I'm even going all by myself (maybe to prove I really am a grown-up).
I may never know why I'm going, but it will be good to go home, and I plan on having a lot-o'-fun.
We are the Wildcats, the mighty, mighty Wildcats.
Everywhere we go people want to know
Who we are, and we tell them,
We are the Wildcats, the mighty, mighty Wildcats........
I don’t know why. I’ve never gone before. I’ve never wanted to go.
But for some reason I feel like I should.
I’m looking forward to it. I'm old enough that I'm not stressed about the usual things: I didn’t go on a diet, I didn’t buy a new outfit, I didn't have my nails done (ok, I never do). I'm comfortable going just as myself. And I think I’ve developed enough social skills to talk to people with whom I have a shared history, even if I don't remember them.
I’m glad that I never did anything to be ashamed of. I have no worries about who I might see or what they might remember.
When I was in high school I never hooked up with a particular group of friends. I was friends with everyone in my class. I liked it that way.
But when I left high school, I really left. I didn’t even glance back. I was so excited to be out of there and off to college and on to other things that I didn't stay in touch with anyone. It's been a long time since I've even thought of high school.
I’ve asked myself why I’m going. It’s certainly not to impress anyone. I don't think I'm trying to recapture the past. It's not even to rejuvenate old friendships that I don't have time for.
I think it’s more like gathering the puzzle pieces of your life and finishing the picture. It's about acknowledging the people and experiences that have made you what you are. It's about coming full circle.
I'm just guessing here. I'm really going just because I have a strong feeling that I should.
I'm even going all by myself (maybe to prove I really am a grown-up).
I may never know why I'm going, but it will be good to go home, and I plan on having a lot-o'-fun.
We are the Wildcats, the mighty, mighty Wildcats.
Everywhere we go people want to know
Who we are, and we tell them,
We are the Wildcats, the mighty, mighty Wildcats........
Sunday, September 10, 2006
Lessons from Choir
I can't sing. Really I can't.
I learned too late in life that one can learn to sing.
I have tried to improve, and now I can almost carry a tune.
But I still can't hear harmony very well.
When I sit by someone in choir with a strong alto voice, I can sing almost as well as they can. But if I sit by people who are struggling to find the part, then we all flounder and can't find our way.
This experience always reminds me of how much I rely on other people--on their voice, their guidance, their support--to find my way in life. And having sat beside them, now there are days that I can sing alto, or have faith, or be a good neighbor, all by myself.
I've tagged along with my accompanist mother to choir since I was 12. My improvement as a singer is marginal, but I've learned many lessons while sitting in choir.
I love a note or phrase or verse sung in unison. One voice, one mind, one heart is a powerful thing.
But there is great texture in harmony, in the mix of different voices. A harmony part by itself may sound awkward, but when put together with the whole, it makes beautiful, rich music. Harmony can tell its own story, or add interest to the melody.
We all are trying to sing The Song of Redeeming Love, but our differences need not be dissident.
I always think it's funny when the sopranos complain when they're not given the melody to sing. They are used to the easy part; they're unfamiliar with harmony. Shouldn't we all try to walk in someone else's shoes sometimes? Shouldn't we be willing to carry the harder load occasionally?
Not all people who come to choir can sing very well; some don't even read music. People come because they love to sing, or to be obedient. Almost all come willingly. That is a happy group of people. The sum of their parts is greater than the whole.
Lots of people sing very well, but don't come to choir at all.
Pox on them and their excuses.
I'm of the opinion that the whole congregation should be in the choir. It's nice to sit in the audience and listen to beautiful music, but it's even better to sing that music, joining your voice with others in making a joyful sound.
Life isn't a spectator sport. We were meant to be on stage, tuned in, hooked up and bowled over by the experience.
Every time I go to choir I have thoughts like these.
Mostly I go to choir because of hope.
I hope that if I am faithful in supporting the choir now, that maybe I will be rewarded in the next life with a voice to match my love of music.
And if I don't make the cut for the Heavenly Choir, I will have learned a lot of lessons, feebly sung a lot of beautiful songs, and still get to enjoy the music.
It's a win-win situation.
I learned too late in life that one can learn to sing.
I have tried to improve, and now I can almost carry a tune.
But I still can't hear harmony very well.
When I sit by someone in choir with a strong alto voice, I can sing almost as well as they can. But if I sit by people who are struggling to find the part, then we all flounder and can't find our way.
This experience always reminds me of how much I rely on other people--on their voice, their guidance, their support--to find my way in life. And having sat beside them, now there are days that I can sing alto, or have faith, or be a good neighbor, all by myself.
I've tagged along with my accompanist mother to choir since I was 12. My improvement as a singer is marginal, but I've learned many lessons while sitting in choir.
I love a note or phrase or verse sung in unison. One voice, one mind, one heart is a powerful thing.
But there is great texture in harmony, in the mix of different voices. A harmony part by itself may sound awkward, but when put together with the whole, it makes beautiful, rich music. Harmony can tell its own story, or add interest to the melody.
We all are trying to sing The Song of Redeeming Love, but our differences need not be dissident.
I always think it's funny when the sopranos complain when they're not given the melody to sing. They are used to the easy part; they're unfamiliar with harmony. Shouldn't we all try to walk in someone else's shoes sometimes? Shouldn't we be willing to carry the harder load occasionally?
Timing matters. There are times to sing fast, or slow, or loud or soft. Times to sing solo, or with others, in harmony or in unison. Timing matters in life. There are times to hurry, times to slow down; times to be heard, and times to be quiet; times to act on your own, and times to conform to the group. Life is a beautiful rendition when we learn the timing.
A choir would sound terrible if everyone sang their own song. It's beautiful when everyone follows the same music and the same leader. Zion is a beautiful place when everyone reads the instructions (scriptures) and follows the leader (prophet).Not all people who come to choir can sing very well; some don't even read music. People come because they love to sing, or to be obedient. Almost all come willingly. That is a happy group of people. The sum of their parts is greater than the whole.
Lots of people sing very well, but don't come to choir at all.
Pox on them and their excuses.
I'm of the opinion that the whole congregation should be in the choir. It's nice to sit in the audience and listen to beautiful music, but it's even better to sing that music, joining your voice with others in making a joyful sound.
Life isn't a spectator sport. We were meant to be on stage, tuned in, hooked up and bowled over by the experience.
Every time I go to choir I have thoughts like these.
Mostly I go to choir because of hope.
I hope that if I am faithful in supporting the choir now, that maybe I will be rewarded in the next life with a voice to match my love of music.
And if I don't make the cut for the Heavenly Choir, I will have learned a lot of lessons, feebly sung a lot of beautiful songs, and still get to enjoy the music.
It's a win-win situation.
Friday, September 08, 2006
The Race is Not to the Swift
Today in Church the priest had to repeat the sacrament prayers three times. Each time he did better until he got it perfect, as required.
I find that every time I do Dance Dance Revolution, I’m a little better than I was the last time.
Every time I exercise I’m a little more limber, a little stronger, have a little more stamina than before.
It’s nice to see some progress because there is darn little in life we see progress in.
I have to think this is true of spiritual things too. Every little prayer, every moment in the scriptures, every good thought or kind deed makes us better.
I do better physically when I exercise frequently. Occasional exercise is almost like starting over again: I'm stiff, rusty and forgetful. It's also true if I neglect my spiritual self.
Perfection seems afar off, impossible even, but maybe we get there the same way we eat an elephant, one little bit at a time. I think it takes practice, persistence, repetition, and time. It's best if plied daily.
I’d like to think, even if I can’t see it, that I’m making some progress.
One can always hope.
And keep on truckin'.
Let us run with patience the race that is set before us. Hebrews 12:1
I find that every time I do Dance Dance Revolution, I’m a little better than I was the last time.
Every time I exercise I’m a little more limber, a little stronger, have a little more stamina than before.
It’s nice to see some progress because there is darn little in life we see progress in.
I have to think this is true of spiritual things too. Every little prayer, every moment in the scriptures, every good thought or kind deed makes us better.
I do better physically when I exercise frequently. Occasional exercise is almost like starting over again: I'm stiff, rusty and forgetful. It's also true if I neglect my spiritual self.
Perfection seems afar off, impossible even, but maybe we get there the same way we eat an elephant, one little bit at a time. I think it takes practice, persistence, repetition, and time. It's best if plied daily.
I’d like to think, even if I can’t see it, that I’m making some progress.
One can always hope.
And keep on truckin'.
Let us run with patience the race that is set before us. Hebrews 12:1
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
How Nice You LOOK
We do it to ourselves, you know, and to each other.
Have you ever noticed how many of our conversations are about looks?
"You look nice today."
"Cute shoes! "
"Is that a new outfit?"
"I’m having a bad-hair day."
It places an overinflated value on appearance.
Ed said,
When men found the mirror
They began to lose their souls.
The point, of course, is that
They began to concern themselves
With their images rather than
Their selves." --Stan Herman
Maybe it’s why I like to read Jane Austen books. Their conversations are about the particulars of a person’s character. Not that it doesn’t show in the way they dress and act and live, but her characters purpose to know a person’s soul.
We don't do that in today's society. Maybe we would feel like we were judging people. Maybe we just don’t have the words for it.
So we read books, so we can know the inner thoughts and motives of other people.
Then we close our book, go visit friends, and say, “How nice you look.”
What if we said instead, “How nice you are,”
and took the time to know a soul.
Have you ever noticed how many of our conversations are about looks?
"You look nice today."
"Cute shoes! "
"Is that a new outfit?"
"I’m having a bad-hair day."
It places an overinflated value on appearance.
Ed said,
When men found the mirror
They began to lose their souls.
The point, of course, is that
They began to concern themselves
With their images rather than
Their selves." --Stan Herman
Maybe it’s why I like to read Jane Austen books. Their conversations are about the particulars of a person’s character. Not that it doesn’t show in the way they dress and act and live, but her characters purpose to know a person’s soul.
We don't do that in today's society. Maybe we would feel like we were judging people. Maybe we just don’t have the words for it.
So we read books, so we can know the inner thoughts and motives of other people.
Then we close our book, go visit friends, and say, “How nice you look.”
What if we said instead, “How nice you are,”
and took the time to know a soul.
Monday, September 04, 2006
Scrappy Quilt
In my younger years, I remember many days after school (when I wasn’t curled up with a book) sewing in the room at the top of the stairs. I would listen to the rain and the radio (not rock music--I never did like it) and the sound of the Bernina sewing machine. I don’t sew much anymore, but I do work in the quilting world.
Quilters often throw random scraps into a box and put it under their bed or in the attic. Years later they might piece together, from the fabrics they’ve saved, a beautiful quilt full of memories.
I haven’t saved any pieces of fabric, but I can make another kind of quilt:
“A journal entry is a piece saved from the fabric of a woman’s day. Ragged, incomplete, misshapen—only its color and pattern are left to show how it fits with its mates.” Maureen Ursenbach Beecher
A journal (or blog or personal history) is a way of piecing together the colors and patterns of one’s life, of making some sense of the random swatches.
Much of our life is like working on the back side of a quilt or tapestry. We do the work, but we don’t really know what kind of picture it is making. It is only years later that we see how each piece of our life is a part of a larger pattern, and that what we’ve made has sense and purpose and is beautiful.
I’m glad I don’t have to get out my sewing machine to piece my quilt. I’m sure, even then, I’ll have a lot of mis-matched pieces, dangling threads, crooked seams and unfinished edges. But ragged, scrappy, or crazy as my quilt may be, it will be warm, cozy, and uniquely mine.
Quilters often throw random scraps into a box and put it under their bed or in the attic. Years later they might piece together, from the fabrics they’ve saved, a beautiful quilt full of memories.
I haven’t saved any pieces of fabric, but I can make another kind of quilt:
“A journal entry is a piece saved from the fabric of a woman’s day. Ragged, incomplete, misshapen—only its color and pattern are left to show how it fits with its mates.” Maureen Ursenbach Beecher
A journal (or blog or personal history) is a way of piecing together the colors and patterns of one’s life, of making some sense of the random swatches.
Much of our life is like working on the back side of a quilt or tapestry. We do the work, but we don’t really know what kind of picture it is making. It is only years later that we see how each piece of our life is a part of a larger pattern, and that what we’ve made has sense and purpose and is beautiful.
I’m glad I don’t have to get out my sewing machine to piece my quilt. I’m sure, even then, I’ll have a lot of mis-matched pieces, dangling threads, crooked seams and unfinished edges. But ragged, scrappy, or crazy as my quilt may be, it will be warm, cozy, and uniquely mine.
When life throws you scraps, make a quilt.
Thursday, August 31, 2006
Happy Mother
When my children were small, and I was surrounded by mess and noise, I remember thinking often of how unhappy I felt.
Then one day I read simple story about mother buttoning her child’s coat. The mother's jaw was set, her lips pursed, her movements clipped and hard. I thought, how sad for that child that her mother was so unhappy, and seemed unhappy about being a mother.
I decided then and there I would not do that to my children; that they would see a happy mother, and one that was happy to be a mother.
Of course there still ensued many moments of frustration, anger, and unhappiness.
But in making that decision, I actually was happier, and more grateful, and happy to be a mother.
I hope when my children looked into my face, that they saw I was glad to be a mom, that I was happy to be their Mom.
Mother dear, I love you so,
Your happy smiling face
Is such a joy to look at;
It makes home a lovely place.
Then one day I read simple story about mother buttoning her child’s coat. The mother's jaw was set, her lips pursed, her movements clipped and hard. I thought, how sad for that child that her mother was so unhappy, and seemed unhappy about being a mother.
I decided then and there I would not do that to my children; that they would see a happy mother, and one that was happy to be a mother.
Of course there still ensued many moments of frustration, anger, and unhappiness.
But in making that decision, I actually was happier, and more grateful, and happy to be a mother.
I hope when my children looked into my face, that they saw I was glad to be a mom, that I was happy to be their Mom.
Mother dear, I love you so,
Your happy smiling face
Is such a joy to look at;
It makes home a lovely place.
Monday, August 28, 2006
In Your Footsteps
Recently I came across this story:
With ten children every day was hectic. On this particular day, however, I was having trouble doing even routine chores—all because of one little boy.
Len, who was three at the time, was on my heels no matter where I went. Whenever I stopped to do something and turned back around, I would trip over him. Several times I patiently suggested fun activities to keep him occupied.
“Wouldn’t you like to play on the swing set?” I asked again. But he simply smiled an innocent smile and said, “Oh, that’s all right, Mommy. I’d rather be in here with you.” Then he continued to bounce happily along behind me.
After stepping on his toes for the fifth time, I began to lose my patience and insisted that he go outside and play with the other children. When I asked him why he was acting this way, he looked up at me with sweet green eyes and said, “Well, Mommy, in Primary my teacher told me to walk in Jesus’ footsteps. But I can’t see him, so I’m walking in yours.” (Davida Dalton as told to JoEllen Johnson, Ensign, April 1994)
With ten children every day was hectic. On this particular day, however, I was having trouble doing even routine chores—all because of one little boy.
Len, who was three at the time, was on my heels no matter where I went. Whenever I stopped to do something and turned back around, I would trip over him. Several times I patiently suggested fun activities to keep him occupied.
“Wouldn’t you like to play on the swing set?” I asked again. But he simply smiled an innocent smile and said, “Oh, that’s all right, Mommy. I’d rather be in here with you.” Then he continued to bounce happily along behind me.
After stepping on his toes for the fifth time, I began to lose my patience and insisted that he go outside and play with the other children. When I asked him why he was acting this way, he looked up at me with sweet green eyes and said, “Well, Mommy, in Primary my teacher told me to walk in Jesus’ footsteps. But I can’t see him, so I’m walking in yours.” (Davida Dalton as told to JoEllen Johnson, Ensign, April 1994)
I had a mother in whose footsteps I could follow. She wasn't perfect, but if I can walk the walk she did, I know I'll be on the right path. It sure made life easier.
In some ways, we are all like this little boy. We can't see Jesus, so we watch those we can see. We learn much of godliness from other people. Anne Madsen has said that most of what she has learned about Godhood she learned in her home.
We can and should learn of God from Him, by study and by revelation. There is none beside Him. He is incomparable.
But I have learned much of the divine from family and friends, from church leaders, and from saintly people I've heard or read about but never met.
I am grateful for what I have learned from others. Glad that I could walk side by side with saints. Glad that I could see up close the majesty of a righteous soul. Glad that I have rubbed shoulders with giants.
I'm grateful for footsteps I can follow.
I'm glad that I know you.
"You and I cannot hope to exert, even to a small degree, the personality of our great Teacher, Jesus Christ. Each one's personality may be to the Savior's only as one little sunbeam to the mighty sun itself; and yet, though infinitely less in degree, each personality should be the same in kind." --David O. McKay
Sunday, August 27, 2006
I AM a Child of God
Today I thought about the very first spiritual experience that I remember having.
I was perhaps in the 8th grade, and I was sitting on the back row of the chapel during Fast and Testimony meeting. For once I was actually listening, when this feeling come over me. I can't explain it, but I felt that God was my Father, and that I was His daughter. It wasn't a feeling of knowlege that God lives, but a feeling of relatedness, that He really is my Father, that He knows me and loves me and cares about me. It was like He touched me on the shoulder to get my attention. I didn't just know that I was a child of God; I felt that relationship.
That's all. No big deal.
But to me it was. That feeling was permanently etched into my soul and has stayed with me all of my life.
I've always thought it significant that my first revelation was, that I am a daughter of God.
Maybe it's why I don't grow up: I feel always like a child, always in need of help and direction and wisdom.
I have found safety and security in knowing I have a Father who loves me, who watches out for me, who cares about what I do.
I have found purpose and meaning in knowing He sent me here for a reason.
All the days of my life I have been grateful that my Father revealed Himself to me when I was yet a girl.
Like a spoiled, selfish child, I have at times ignored and even defied Him.
But mostly I have tried to please Him.
I look forward to seeing Him again, to being held in His arms once more.
I hope it will bring a smile to His face, that I have tried to be a good girl.
"Nothing is going to startle us more when we pass through the veil to the other side than to realize how well we know our Father and how familiar his face is to us." --Ezra Taft Benson
Sunday, August 20, 2006
Family Flag
Once we made a family flag.
How ten people ever agreed on how to make it, I'll never know.
This is my take on what we did and why:
Our family flag is green, and made to look like dollar bill.
We chose this because we felt rich. Oh, we didn’t have any money. But we felt wealthy in the things that mattered. And we knew there were promises of greater riches when we live righteously.
In the middle is a large circle with, not a government building, but a temple. Written in the white circle around the temple is the reason why: Sauter Family, established in 1972. That’s when and where our family began. It is also where we hope it will end. It is the center focus of our family to be an eternal family.
We made it a $10 bill because there’s 10 of us!
Across the top are the words "United Forever."
The serial number on the 'bill' is a stream of numbers that includes our birthdates.
On one side there is a red heart with a rainbow streaming out of it.
We are a mixed rainbow of personalities that love and are loved.
The rainbow also represents values close to our hearts, like faith, good works and integrity.
I added a scripture reference below the heart:
Proverbs 4:23 "Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." Goodness comes from the inside out.
U.S. currency usually says "In God We Trust.' We believe that. We also believe its corollary: "God Trusts In Us." He has given us the freedom and means to be all that we can be, and He trusts us to use our blessings to help build His kingdom, and ours.
Like our flag, our family is unfinished and imperfect.
But we pledge allegiance to what it represents.
The flag is tucked away in a drawer somewhere.
I hope the values it symbolizes are still flying high.
How ten people ever agreed on how to make it, I'll never know.
This is my take on what we did and why:
Our family flag is green, and made to look like dollar bill.
We chose this because we felt rich. Oh, we didn’t have any money. But we felt wealthy in the things that mattered. And we knew there were promises of greater riches when we live righteously.
In the middle is a large circle with, not a government building, but a temple. Written in the white circle around the temple is the reason why: Sauter Family, established in 1972. That’s when and where our family began. It is also where we hope it will end. It is the center focus of our family to be an eternal family.
We made it a $10 bill because there’s 10 of us!
- In one corner there is a #10 with 10 faces peeking out of it.
- In another corner the #10 has a gold crown at the top. Ten represents perfection. When we rate things from one to ten, ten is the best, the most perfect. That is our goal, to be our best, to try to become perfect, even if it takes forever.
- In the bottom corner the #1 in the 10 is a music note, because we love to sing and play and listen to all kinds of music, and good music is important to our family.
- In the fourth corner the 0 in the #10 has the top of a head peeking over an open Book of Mormon, because we read the Book of Mormon as a family.
Across the top are the words "United Forever."
The serial number on the 'bill' is a stream of numbers that includes our birthdates.
On one side there is a red heart with a rainbow streaming out of it.
We are a mixed rainbow of personalities that love and are loved.
The rainbow also represents values close to our hearts, like faith, good works and integrity.
I added a scripture reference below the heart:
Proverbs 4:23 "Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." Goodness comes from the inside out.
U.S. currency usually says "In God We Trust.' We believe that. We also believe its corollary: "God Trusts In Us." He has given us the freedom and means to be all that we can be, and He trusts us to use our blessings to help build His kingdom, and ours.
Like our flag, our family is unfinished and imperfect.
But we pledge allegiance to what it represents.
The flag is tucked away in a drawer somewhere.
I hope the values it symbolizes are still flying high.
Saturday, August 19, 2006
Many are called, but some are bugged more
I got my first calling in the Church when I was 13 years old. I was Junior Sunday School chorister. At 15 I became Senior Sunday School chorister, and at 16 the Ward chorister. At 17 I was the Ward Dance Director. At 19 I directed a roadshow.
By this age none of my friends had callings yet.
Why me? I'm not sure.
I have held a calling almost continuously since high school. Some have been interesting:
Someone created a calling for me as Junior Assistant to the Stake Camp Director, where I got to plan, lead, travel and bunk with the stake adult camp leaders my last year of camp.
At BYU I was a visiting teacher to Alice Wilkinson, wife of Ernest L. Wilkinson, president of BYU, and she a member of the Relief Society General Board.
The next year I was Sunday School chorister under Stan Miller. He went on to compile the Especially for Mormons books. Stuff from my file is in his first book from when we worked on a program together.
I worked in Primary for many years, but the one calling I've never had is that of a Primary teacher. Go figure.
Some callings have been a leap of faith for me.
Many have changed my life.
One even changed my personality. (For the better, I hope.)
Many callings were hard, inconvenient, and soul-stretching, but every calling was a blessing.
One might say I just stayed home all my life and didn't really make anything of myself. They might be right.
But I believe that my varied church responsibilities have given me more opportunities to grow in different ways than a career would have done. The Lord has made more of me than I ever would have made of myself.
I have had more than my share of opportunites to speak and teach and serve; I have had more than my fair share of chances to be guided by the Spirit, to rub shoulders with giants, and to come to know the Lord.
It isn't fair, I know.
I too ask, Why me?
I don't know.
But I'm glad I answered the calls.
He who does God's work will get God's pay.
By this age none of my friends had callings yet.
Why me? I'm not sure.
I have held a calling almost continuously since high school. Some have been interesting:
Someone created a calling for me as Junior Assistant to the Stake Camp Director, where I got to plan, lead, travel and bunk with the stake adult camp leaders my last year of camp.
At BYU I was a visiting teacher to Alice Wilkinson, wife of Ernest L. Wilkinson, president of BYU, and she a member of the Relief Society General Board.
The next year I was Sunday School chorister under Stan Miller. He went on to compile the Especially for Mormons books. Stuff from my file is in his first book from when we worked on a program together.
I worked in Primary for many years, but the one calling I've never had is that of a Primary teacher. Go figure.
Some callings have been a leap of faith for me.
Many have changed my life.
One even changed my personality. (For the better, I hope.)
Many callings were hard, inconvenient, and soul-stretching, but every calling was a blessing.
One might say I just stayed home all my life and didn't really make anything of myself. They might be right.
But I believe that my varied church responsibilities have given me more opportunities to grow in different ways than a career would have done. The Lord has made more of me than I ever would have made of myself.
I have had more than my share of opportunites to speak and teach and serve; I have had more than my fair share of chances to be guided by the Spirit, to rub shoulders with giants, and to come to know the Lord.
It isn't fair, I know.
I too ask, Why me?
I don't know.
But I'm glad I answered the calls.
He who does God's work will get God's pay.
Friday, August 18, 2006
Peace and Quiet
I went to the temple today. It was quiet.
I mean, really quiet. Soundless, almost.
I knew the noisy world was going on outside, but as I sat in the Celestial Room I couldn't even detect the hum of an air conditioner.
I wondered how long I'd have to stay there to get that quiet on the inside.
It made me wonder what the Celestial Kingdom will be like. I feel sure it won't be anything at all like our noisy, chaotic world. No traffic jams, cell phones, music blasting or TVs blaring.
I've often wondered what that moment of death is like when you turn your back and walk away from this world, leaving behind demanding dayplanners, cluttered closets, cares and woes.
The silence must be deafening.
The freedom must be exhilarating.
The experience must be pure joy.
In the few minutes after my mother passed away, as we were standing around her bed, we all felt so happy for our mother.
We were happy for where she was, for what she was experiencing, and for who she was with.
I've told my children, Don't cry for me when I'm gone.
I will be happy--happier than I've ever been.
Cry for youself if you like.
But do not cry for me.
I'll be leaving this sad old world behind--
Droppin' it like a hot potato.
I'll be goin' Home.
And I know I'll see you there.
Goin' home, goin' home, I'm a-goin' Home.
Quiet-like, some still day, I'm jes' goin' home.
It's not far, jes' close by, through an open door;
Work all done, care laid by, goin' to fear no more.
Mother's there 'spectin' me, Father's waitin' too.
Lot's o' folks gathered there, all the friends I knew.
Nothin' lost; all's gain; no more fret nor pain.
No more stumbling on the way,
No more longin' for the day,
Goin' to roam no more!
Shadows gone, break of day,
Real life jes' begun.
Wide awake, with a smile,
goin' on and on.
I'm a- goin' Home.
(Song to be sung at my funeral, or I'll come back to haunt you!)
When you were born, you were crying
And everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end,
You’re the one who is smiling
And everyone around you is crying.
I mean, really quiet. Soundless, almost.
I knew the noisy world was going on outside, but as I sat in the Celestial Room I couldn't even detect the hum of an air conditioner.
I wondered how long I'd have to stay there to get that quiet on the inside.
It made me wonder what the Celestial Kingdom will be like. I feel sure it won't be anything at all like our noisy, chaotic world. No traffic jams, cell phones, music blasting or TVs blaring.
I've often wondered what that moment of death is like when you turn your back and walk away from this world, leaving behind demanding dayplanners, cluttered closets, cares and woes.
The silence must be deafening.
The freedom must be exhilarating.
The experience must be pure joy.
In the few minutes after my mother passed away, as we were standing around her bed, we all felt so happy for our mother.
We were happy for where she was, for what she was experiencing, and for who she was with.
I've told my children, Don't cry for me when I'm gone.
I will be happy--happier than I've ever been.
Cry for youself if you like.
But do not cry for me.
I'll be leaving this sad old world behind--
Droppin' it like a hot potato.
I'll be goin' Home.
And I know I'll see you there.
Goin' home, goin' home, I'm a-goin' Home.
Quiet-like, some still day, I'm jes' goin' home.
It's not far, jes' close by, through an open door;
Work all done, care laid by, goin' to fear no more.
Mother's there 'spectin' me, Father's waitin' too.
Lot's o' folks gathered there, all the friends I knew.
Nothin' lost; all's gain; no more fret nor pain.
No more stumbling on the way,
No more longin' for the day,
Goin' to roam no more!
Shadows gone, break of day,
Real life jes' begun.
Wide awake, with a smile,
goin' on and on.
I'm a- goin' Home.
(Song to be sung at my funeral, or I'll come back to haunt you!)
When you were born, you were crying
And everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end,
You’re the one who is smiling
And everyone around you is crying.
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
Look Up!
A few years ago I paid a visit to my native state of Washington.
The day I drove to the airport to return home was, even for Washington, especially dark and dreary. The cloud cover was thick and dense and almost black, and so low that I felt it was pressing my face down into a frown.
We boarded and the plane took off, and as it ascended it broke through the clouds---into blazing, brilliant white light, into heat and warmth, and into a view that went on forever! It literally took my breath away. I’m sure I audibly gasped at the drastic change.
When my eyes adjusted and I caught my breath again, I looked out the window, down to the ground below. Through the breaks in the clouds I could see cars driving and people going through their day.
It struck me how we live much of our lives under a cover of clouds, with limited vision, and sometimes in chilly dreariness.
I’ve never forgotten this experience. It helps me remember that though life seems dark and dreary, and we cannot see afar off,
that not very far away, not far at all, is the light and truth and glory of God, the warmth of His love, and a view of eternity.
So look up! and see what's really there.
“We will see that mortal things mattered so little, and eternal things mattered much more than even the most faithful imagined.”
--Neal A. Maxwell
The day I drove to the airport to return home was, even for Washington, especially dark and dreary. The cloud cover was thick and dense and almost black, and so low that I felt it was pressing my face down into a frown.
We boarded and the plane took off, and as it ascended it broke through the clouds---into blazing, brilliant white light, into heat and warmth, and into a view that went on forever! It literally took my breath away. I’m sure I audibly gasped at the drastic change.
When my eyes adjusted and I caught my breath again, I looked out the window, down to the ground below. Through the breaks in the clouds I could see cars driving and people going through their day.
It struck me how we live much of our lives under a cover of clouds, with limited vision, and sometimes in chilly dreariness.
I’ve never forgotten this experience. It helps me remember that though life seems dark and dreary, and we cannot see afar off,
that not very far away, not far at all, is the light and truth and glory of God, the warmth of His love, and a view of eternity.
So look up! and see what's really there.
“We will see that mortal things mattered so little, and eternal things mattered much more than even the most faithful imagined.”
--Neal A. Maxwell
Tuesday, August 15, 2006
You've Got Mail
Nary a Sunday goes by that we don't hear how we should read our scriptures every day. It was not so when I was growing up, but somehow I knew.
Finally, my junior year in college, I decided I would give it a try. I started with the Doctrine and Covenants; it seemed the easiest to read and understand. Every night I would read in my bed, but it wasn't really reading. My eyes would follow the words while my mind was thinking about other things.
I didn't get a lot out of that very casual reading, but there is one thing I got: converted.
I got a sure and absolute testimony of the gospel, free and independent of my parents. I knew for myself, without any doubt.
What great and generous blessings come from Heaven when we offer our little loaves and fishes of obedience.
The next couple of years I read a minimum of ten pages a day, including the Old Testament.
I haven't always kept up a regular reading schedule, but I have found that my life is palpably different when I am committed to reading.
When we pray, we speak to God.
When we read the scriptures, He speaks to us.
Someone put it this way:
"As I open the scriptures, I think, in a way, 'You've Got Mail.' And I wonder what God has to say to me today. Almost inevitably, I discover some scriptural note with my name on it--a specific message from a loving Savior and Father, hand-tucked into a stack of celestial memos pre-dating me but post-dated for my needs." Karen Merkley
Every day I check my e-mail for messages from people I love.
Every day I read my scriptures for messages from Above.
You might want to check.
I'll bet You've Got Mail.
Finally, my junior year in college, I decided I would give it a try. I started with the Doctrine and Covenants; it seemed the easiest to read and understand. Every night I would read in my bed, but it wasn't really reading. My eyes would follow the words while my mind was thinking about other things.
I didn't get a lot out of that very casual reading, but there is one thing I got: converted.
I got a sure and absolute testimony of the gospel, free and independent of my parents. I knew for myself, without any doubt.
What great and generous blessings come from Heaven when we offer our little loaves and fishes of obedience.
The next couple of years I read a minimum of ten pages a day, including the Old Testament.
I haven't always kept up a regular reading schedule, but I have found that my life is palpably different when I am committed to reading.
When we pray, we speak to God.
When we read the scriptures, He speaks to us.
Someone put it this way:
"As I open the scriptures, I think, in a way, 'You've Got Mail.' And I wonder what God has to say to me today. Almost inevitably, I discover some scriptural note with my name on it--a specific message from a loving Savior and Father, hand-tucked into a stack of celestial memos pre-dating me but post-dated for my needs." Karen Merkley
Every day I check my e-mail for messages from people I love.
Every day I read my scriptures for messages from Above.
You might want to check.
I'll bet You've Got Mail.
Thursday, August 10, 2006
Horace Papadopoulos
Horace Papadopoulos was the name of a very cute, very pink, stuffed hippopotamus. He lived above my head on the shelf of the waterbed, with a family of others like him of varying shapes and sizes. Horace had babies—four little hot pink ones-that fit snugly inside his soft tummy.
Before we had children, we collected hippopotami. It started with a stroll in the mall and a picture I just had to have to hang on my wall.
From there the hippo family grew, and provided some fun until we had children of our own.
Our children weren’t hot pink. And they weren’t named Horace or Obadiah. But they ended up in our bed just as often, they stayed around much longer, and they were a lot more fun.
They say you favor an animal that you identify with.
Let’s see, I’m not terribly fat; I don't have big teeth; I don’t like the out-of-doors; I don’t often go swimming.
I guess what I like about hippos is that they’re hot pink.
On the inside I am as gray and dull as a hippo.
But on the outside I prefer Fuschia!
And if the name hadn't already been used, we might have had a child named Horace.
Before we had children, we collected hippopotami. It started with a stroll in the mall and a picture I just had to have to hang on my wall.
From there the hippo family grew, and provided some fun until we had children of our own.
Our children weren’t hot pink. And they weren’t named Horace or Obadiah. But they ended up in our bed just as often, they stayed around much longer, and they were a lot more fun.
They say you favor an animal that you identify with.
Let’s see, I’m not terribly fat; I don't have big teeth; I don’t like the out-of-doors; I don’t often go swimming.
I guess what I like about hippos is that they’re hot pink.
On the inside I am as gray and dull as a hippo.
But on the outside I prefer Fuschia!
And if the name hadn't already been used, we might have had a child named Horace.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006
Feelin' Good
I think I am a very even-tempered person. I am in almost the same mood all the time. There is good and bad about that, but that's how I am: boring.
So it surprises me when I feel low or high, because it's rare.
This week I'm feeling higher than usual. I'm feeling the ripple effect of some of the things I’ve been doing lately.
Many mornings I listen to Michael Buble’s “Feelin’ Good” and it really does ring in my brain and my emotions all day long.
I also started doing DDR—the X-Box dance game. I find that everywhere I go when I hear music, I feel like dancing. I have to hold myself back though, because I have no style and would embarrass myself.
I find blogging also effects the way I think and the way I see things. I love how validating it is, and look forward to that shared experience every day.
The result of all this is: I feel like a dancing, singing poet all day!
It’s amazing how much this affects my attitude, my energy level, and my general mood.
I'm feelin' good!
(If only I could bottle it and sell it as an anti-depressant.)
This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. Psalms 118:24
So it surprises me when I feel low or high, because it's rare.
This week I'm feeling higher than usual. I'm feeling the ripple effect of some of the things I’ve been doing lately.
Many mornings I listen to Michael Buble’s “Feelin’ Good” and it really does ring in my brain and my emotions all day long.
I also started doing DDR—the X-Box dance game. I find that everywhere I go when I hear music, I feel like dancing. I have to hold myself back though, because I have no style and would embarrass myself.
I find blogging also effects the way I think and the way I see things. I love how validating it is, and look forward to that shared experience every day.
The result of all this is: I feel like a dancing, singing poet all day!
It’s amazing how much this affects my attitude, my energy level, and my general mood.
I'm feelin' good!
(If only I could bottle it and sell it as an anti-depressant.)
This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. Psalms 118:24
Monday, August 07, 2006
Hippo Birdie Two Ewes
Today is my birthday. It is a happy day!
I am happy that I was born and get to have "My Turn on Earth."
I am happy that I was born at this time, early enough to know an age of innocence and late enough to have dishwashers and Internet.
I'm happy that I was born in this country and have the freedom to think, act, speak out, and be anything I want, even if I don't know what that is.
I'm happy that I was born to my sweet Mother, and got to have such a character for a Father.
I'm happy for each sibling that I grew up with, who still play with me and define me.
I'm happy that I got to get an education and learn a little of this awesome world and its people.
I'm happy that I got to get married and have children.
I'm happy that, though I haven't always had money, I've always had a roof over my head and food to eat, and most of my life it was a good roof and good food.
I'm happy that I've been blessed with good friends all of my life.
I'm happy that I was born during the Restoration in the Fulness of Times; it has meant everything to me.
I'm happy that I've been able to see and hear and run and skip and dance and do handsprings.
I'm happy to live in this beautiful world, even if it doesn't feel like Home to me.
It is a Happy Birthday. I am so glad I was born.
I am happy that I was born and get to have "My Turn on Earth."
I am happy that I was born at this time, early enough to know an age of innocence and late enough to have dishwashers and Internet.
I'm happy that I was born in this country and have the freedom to think, act, speak out, and be anything I want, even if I don't know what that is.
I'm happy that I was born to my sweet Mother, and got to have such a character for a Father.
I'm happy for each sibling that I grew up with, who still play with me and define me.
I'm happy that I got to get an education and learn a little of this awesome world and its people.
I'm happy that I got to get married and have children.
I'm happy that, though I haven't always had money, I've always had a roof over my head and food to eat, and most of my life it was a good roof and good food.
I'm happy that I've been blessed with good friends all of my life.
I'm happy that I was born during the Restoration in the Fulness of Times; it has meant everything to me.
I'm happy that I've been able to see and hear and run and skip and dance and do handsprings.
I'm happy to live in this beautiful world, even if it doesn't feel like Home to me.
It is a Happy Birthday. I am so glad I was born.
Friday, August 04, 2006
Handspring!
I've been bragging for years that I can still do a handspring.
My kids even brag to their friends that their mother can do a handspring.
But I realized it has been a few years since I have actually tried to do one.
With another birthday coming up, I decided it was time to see if I really could still do it, especially because I was having trouble doing cartwheels with my granddaughters.
Today was the day.
Mind you, now I have to prepare for it. I spent a few days on my treadmill, on my exercise ball, lifting weights and stretching to prepare for this event. After all, I didn't want to hurt myself. I took a big risk and did it when no one was home if I did get hurt.
I usually save this big event for an audience, but I didn't want to totally shame myself.
I donned my workout clothes, found good shoes, and headed for the backyard. It has a slight slant to it.
I stared across the yard, measuring the distance, checking the incline, debating whether it was worth the risk.
I took a trial run to see how it felt. I don't know......
Yes, I do. This is the day. I am going to do it!
I marched back up the hill, and without another thought I took off, jumped up, went down on my hands, and over I went. I did it!!!!
OK, to be honest, my gym teacher would not have passed it.
I landed as much on my bum as I did my feet. But I did it.
Just for good measure, I did a couple more. They didn't get any better. My days of landing clean on my feet may be over.
It hurt my wrists only a little, but I don't think I will be doing a lot more of them in my lifetime.
But at least once more. I need witnesses.
My kids even brag to their friends that their mother can do a handspring.
But I realized it has been a few years since I have actually tried to do one.
With another birthday coming up, I decided it was time to see if I really could still do it, especially because I was having trouble doing cartwheels with my granddaughters.
Today was the day.
Mind you, now I have to prepare for it. I spent a few days on my treadmill, on my exercise ball, lifting weights and stretching to prepare for this event. After all, I didn't want to hurt myself. I took a big risk and did it when no one was home if I did get hurt.
I usually save this big event for an audience, but I didn't want to totally shame myself.
I donned my workout clothes, found good shoes, and headed for the backyard. It has a slight slant to it.
I stared across the yard, measuring the distance, checking the incline, debating whether it was worth the risk.
I took a trial run to see how it felt. I don't know......
Yes, I do. This is the day. I am going to do it!
I marched back up the hill, and without another thought I took off, jumped up, went down on my hands, and over I went. I did it!!!!
OK, to be honest, my gym teacher would not have passed it.
I landed as much on my bum as I did my feet. But I did it.
Just for good measure, I did a couple more. They didn't get any better. My days of landing clean on my feet may be over.
It hurt my wrists only a little, but I don't think I will be doing a lot more of them in my lifetime.
But at least once more. I need witnesses.
Passport to Paradise
My passport came in the mail today!
It’s for our family cruise in November, of course.
But it has, in my mind, opened up a whole new world of possibilities.
Where is it a passport to?
Where could it take me that I’ve never been before?
What new sights and tastes and experiences could be waiting for me?
Someone once said, “Our life is a book, and he who stays home writes only one page.”
So, when are we going?
And where?
Are we there yet?
It’s for our family cruise in November, of course.
But it has, in my mind, opened up a whole new world of possibilities.
Where is it a passport to?
Where could it take me that I’ve never been before?
What new sights and tastes and experiences could be waiting for me?
Someone once said, “Our life is a book, and he who stays home writes only one page.”
So, when are we going?
And where?
Are we there yet?
Thursday, August 03, 2006
To Have or Have Not: Children
Ashley’s mom once said an interesting thing.
They were trying to make arrangements for their children if something should happen to them. They went through everyone they knew --grandparents, siblings, aunts and uncles on both sides of the family, and there was no one they trusted to rear their children.
Then this thought occurred to her: This must be how Heavenly Father feels. He wants to send his children to the very best homes, where they will have the gospel and be reared in love and righteousness, but they are so few and hard to find.
Brigham Young said,
“I have told you many times that there are multitudes of pure and holy spirits waiting to take tabernacles. Now what is our duty? –to prepare tabernacles for them. To take a course that will not tend to drive these spirits into the families of the wicked, where they will be trained in wickedness.”
I didn’t know all this when I decided to have eight children.
But I did grow up when President David O. McKay was Prophet.
He had a no-excuses attitude about having children.
During some really hard times, I was praying for some blessings. What I got was pregnant again. At first I was upset; the last thing I needed at that time was another baby.
But as I thought about it, I realized that the greatest blessing, the most precious gift Heavenly Father could give me was one of his children. To me it was a sign of His love and trust.
When I realized I was pregnant with my eighth child in ten years,
I threw myself on my bed and sobbed. This lasted only a few minutes when a peace washed over me, and the thought that came into my mind was, “It will be okay.” And it was.
That baby was Angela. Anyone who knows how I feel about Angela, and about Jennifer and Benjamin and Elizabeth and David and Jonathan and Kathryn and Nathan, will know that it was worth it to have eight children.
I never had any idea or feeling or dream of how many children I would have. I always said, Just one at a time.
It added up quickly.
When I think how blessed I have been in my life, and I wonder how I can ever pay Heavenly Father back for all He’s done, I feel that I have paid part of that debt by being willing to provide tabernacles for His children, and by trying to raise them in righteousness.
But then He helped me along the way, and gave me really good kids, making me even more indebted to Him. I hope my children will continue to pay on that debt.
Within the sacred walls of the Temple, where our eternal family began, I’ve come to understand that “Man is, that he might have joy,” and that Joy is found in posterity.
They were trying to make arrangements for their children if something should happen to them. They went through everyone they knew --grandparents, siblings, aunts and uncles on both sides of the family, and there was no one they trusted to rear their children.
Then this thought occurred to her: This must be how Heavenly Father feels. He wants to send his children to the very best homes, where they will have the gospel and be reared in love and righteousness, but they are so few and hard to find.
Brigham Young said,
“I have told you many times that there are multitudes of pure and holy spirits waiting to take tabernacles. Now what is our duty? –to prepare tabernacles for them. To take a course that will not tend to drive these spirits into the families of the wicked, where they will be trained in wickedness.”
I didn’t know all this when I decided to have eight children.
But I did grow up when President David O. McKay was Prophet.
He had a no-excuses attitude about having children.
During some really hard times, I was praying for some blessings. What I got was pregnant again. At first I was upset; the last thing I needed at that time was another baby.
But as I thought about it, I realized that the greatest blessing, the most precious gift Heavenly Father could give me was one of his children. To me it was a sign of His love and trust.
When I realized I was pregnant with my eighth child in ten years,
I threw myself on my bed and sobbed. This lasted only a few minutes when a peace washed over me, and the thought that came into my mind was, “It will be okay.” And it was.
That baby was Angela. Anyone who knows how I feel about Angela, and about Jennifer and Benjamin and Elizabeth and David and Jonathan and Kathryn and Nathan, will know that it was worth it to have eight children.
I never had any idea or feeling or dream of how many children I would have. I always said, Just one at a time.
It added up quickly.
When I think how blessed I have been in my life, and I wonder how I can ever pay Heavenly Father back for all He’s done, I feel that I have paid part of that debt by being willing to provide tabernacles for His children, and by trying to raise them in righteousness.
But then He helped me along the way, and gave me really good kids, making me even more indebted to Him. I hope my children will continue to pay on that debt.
Within the sacred walls of the Temple, where our eternal family began, I’ve come to understand that “Man is, that he might have joy,” and that Joy is found in posterity.
Remnants of Faith
Late in December of 1990, in the midst of an Arctic storm, a large tree came through our house. Actually it was two trees. We saw them fall as we stood by the sliding glass doors leading to the balcony. But it was too late to move. The header over the glass doors probably saved our lives, and our house.
Our goodly neighbor came over, against his wife's wishes, and precipitously climbed our icy roof with his chain saw to cut the trees down off our roof.
Soon after other saintly friends showed up with their construction truck and secured a tarp over the large and gaping hole to prevent further damage to our house.
We farmed the kids out to friends and family, until school started back up and then we moved into three rooms of the Smiley Motel. Several weeks later we moved back in to our mended home.
This is what I wrote in my journal at that time:
Date: 18 January 1991
Three weeks after a tree fell through the roof.
I see them everywhere I go, remnants of the Arctic storms: trees down, or half-down, or cut off at the edge of the road. There are many scenes that will never be the same.
Now I am back home, its repairs nearly complete from its tree-visitor. And I see them everywhere, remnants of the storm: limbs scattered, paint spattered, chunks of drywall, bits of insulation, puzzle pieces of my house that look different or don't fit anymore. And I wonder if life will be the same.
I thought it could all be fixed just as it was. I thought it would all be the same and we would go on just as before. But there's all the remnants, all the reminders of the passing storm, and I realize that neither the house, nor us, will be the same again.
Painful as that may be, I guess it's good. We really didn't have to endure much--a moment of terror and a month of inconvenience, but no real suffering.
And we saw in this experience (and the other accidents of the past month), the Hand of God, and that is a great thing. We don't ever want to forget that.
No, we will never be the same again. Our souls will carry with us the remnants, pieces of faith and of peace and of love.
We were luckier than most folks in similar circumstances, who months later still had no relief. Our insurance agent was there the next day with a big, fat check. Repairs began the first day weather permitted. Our friends took us in and salved our wounds. The damage would have been much worse without their timely help.
It was inconvenient, yes, but we were so very blessed.
Our goodly neighbor came over, against his wife's wishes, and precipitously climbed our icy roof with his chain saw to cut the trees down off our roof.
Soon after other saintly friends showed up with their construction truck and secured a tarp over the large and gaping hole to prevent further damage to our house.
We farmed the kids out to friends and family, until school started back up and then we moved into three rooms of the Smiley Motel. Several weeks later we moved back in to our mended home.
This is what I wrote in my journal at that time:
Date: 18 January 1991
Three weeks after a tree fell through the roof.
I see them everywhere I go, remnants of the Arctic storms: trees down, or half-down, or cut off at the edge of the road. There are many scenes that will never be the same.
Now I am back home, its repairs nearly complete from its tree-visitor. And I see them everywhere, remnants of the storm: limbs scattered, paint spattered, chunks of drywall, bits of insulation, puzzle pieces of my house that look different or don't fit anymore. And I wonder if life will be the same.
I thought it could all be fixed just as it was. I thought it would all be the same and we would go on just as before. But there's all the remnants, all the reminders of the passing storm, and I realize that neither the house, nor us, will be the same again.
Painful as that may be, I guess it's good. We really didn't have to endure much--a moment of terror and a month of inconvenience, but no real suffering.
And we saw in this experience (and the other accidents of the past month), the Hand of God, and that is a great thing. We don't ever want to forget that.
No, we will never be the same again. Our souls will carry with us the remnants, pieces of faith and of peace and of love.
We were luckier than most folks in similar circumstances, who months later still had no relief. Our insurance agent was there the next day with a big, fat check. Repairs began the first day weather permitted. Our friends took us in and salved our wounds. The damage would have been much worse without their timely help.
It was inconvenient, yes, but we were so very blessed.
Monday, July 31, 2006
You're Not Alone
My Patriarchal Blessing says that I will never be closer to God then in the rearing of my children. I did not feel that it was so. I was so tired, so busy, so overwhelmed with earthly concerns to feel close to the Lord.
Then one day I had an experience.
It was late afternoon-- the absolute worst time of the day.
I was exhausted, trying to get dinner, the TV blaring, telephone ringing, eight kids yelling, making messes, hanging on me, demanding things. I was at my wit's end. I thought to myself, "I can't do this any more. I just cannot do this by myself."
I can't explain it, but in that moment I was given to know that I was not alone, that I had never been alone, that help was near all the days and years I was raising my children.
I may not have felt close to the Lord, but He was close to me.
I've wondered many times how often our lives are watched over, guided, and protected when we're not aware of it.
Have you ever felt like you shouldn't go through an intersection even though the light was green, and then an unseen car comes whizzing in front of you?
So many times I've thought it propitious that I was at a certain place, or ran into a certain person, or heard a particular idea.
How often is the Lord or one of his angels nearby?
People have different ideas about this.
Some think God threw us into the pool and left us to learn to swim on our own.
Others think we have a guardian angel by our side at all times.
I don't know which it is; I guess I think it's somewhere in between.
But when He has helped me in something as mundane as knowing in my poverty whether I needed one can of tuna or two, I lean towards believing He's nearer than we know.
The Lord has promised:
I am with you always.
I will never leave you alone.
I believe He meant it.
Then one day I had an experience.
It was late afternoon-- the absolute worst time of the day.
I was exhausted, trying to get dinner, the TV blaring, telephone ringing, eight kids yelling, making messes, hanging on me, demanding things. I was at my wit's end. I thought to myself, "I can't do this any more. I just cannot do this by myself."
I can't explain it, but in that moment I was given to know that I was not alone, that I had never been alone, that help was near all the days and years I was raising my children.
I may not have felt close to the Lord, but He was close to me.
I've wondered many times how often our lives are watched over, guided, and protected when we're not aware of it.
Have you ever felt like you shouldn't go through an intersection even though the light was green, and then an unseen car comes whizzing in front of you?
So many times I've thought it propitious that I was at a certain place, or ran into a certain person, or heard a particular idea.
How often is the Lord or one of his angels nearby?
People have different ideas about this.
Some think God threw us into the pool and left us to learn to swim on our own.
Others think we have a guardian angel by our side at all times.
I don't know which it is; I guess I think it's somewhere in between.
But when He has helped me in something as mundane as knowing in my poverty whether I needed one can of tuna or two, I lean towards believing He's nearer than we know.
The Lord has promised:
I am with you always.
I will never leave you alone.
I believe He meant it.
Saturday, July 29, 2006
Growing Up
I'm all grow'd up but I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up.
I knew at an early age that I wanted to major in Psychology.
The first book I bought myself was Games People Play by Eric Berne.
So I went to college and studied Psychology. But I never planned to work in it. It seems to me that those who really want help are able to help themselves. Psychologists are stuck with the rest.
So I grew up to be a Mother.
Every job has it's good and bad, but for the most part I really liked that job. I feel that it was what I was supposed to do in life.
But now I am Mother Emeritus.
And I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up.
Maybe I just won't grow up.
I don't know what to do, but I know what I want to be.
I want to be like Jesus.
I'm not doing a very good job.
I have a long way to go.
It takes a lot of work and time.
Will I ever grow up to be like my Heavenly Parents?
Will I ever really grow up?
I knew at an early age that I wanted to major in Psychology.
The first book I bought myself was Games People Play by Eric Berne.
So I went to college and studied Psychology. But I never planned to work in it. It seems to me that those who really want help are able to help themselves. Psychologists are stuck with the rest.
So I grew up to be a Mother.
Every job has it's good and bad, but for the most part I really liked that job. I feel that it was what I was supposed to do in life.
But now I am Mother Emeritus.
And I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up.
Maybe I just won't grow up.
I don't know what to do, but I know what I want to be.
I want to be like Jesus.
I'm not doing a very good job.
I have a long way to go.
It takes a lot of work and time.
Will I ever grow up to be like my Heavenly Parents?
Will I ever really grow up?
Thursday, July 27, 2006
Today's Climate
"You're not smiling," Dianna said to me at work today.
I wasn't. For some reason I just woke up tired.
I didn't do my morning pep-up.
I've decided it's the antidote to all the world's problems.
It's Michael Buble's "Feelin' Good."
If everyone listened to that every morning, the world would be a better place!
My daughter telephoned as I was leaving work. We talked about how uninteresting our daily lives are.
But our conversation wasn't boring. We talked about her day at the park, my X-Box and DDR, Scott's birthday, shoes and jewelry, her garden, the newest Patricia Cornwell book (ok, I wish we had),...just stuff that was on our minds.
We may not do interesting things every day.
But every day has an emotional or mental climate, just like the weather outside.
This describes my mental climate today:
I'm tired, ergo sluggish and slow. Yet I worked and even made banana bread.
I feel free from some loose-ends that I finally got tied up yesterday.
I feel determined to get things crossed off my long and stagnant to-do list.
I feel torn about how to use my time. Do I exercise or do DDR, read for book club or study group, blog or call a friend, clean house or do my church work? etc. etc. etc.
I feel blessed to have such choices, to be healthy and comfortable, free and at peace, and able to choose what to do.
I don't know tomorrow's forecast, but I'm making my list of things to do.
And if I remember to play "Feelin' Good", then I know it will be a sunny day.
"Teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom." Psalms 90:12
I wasn't. For some reason I just woke up tired.
I didn't do my morning pep-up.
I've decided it's the antidote to all the world's problems.
It's Michael Buble's "Feelin' Good."
If everyone listened to that every morning, the world would be a better place!
My daughter telephoned as I was leaving work. We talked about how uninteresting our daily lives are.
But our conversation wasn't boring. We talked about her day at the park, my X-Box and DDR, Scott's birthday, shoes and jewelry, her garden, the newest Patricia Cornwell book (ok, I wish we had),...just stuff that was on our minds.
We may not do interesting things every day.
But every day has an emotional or mental climate, just like the weather outside.
This describes my mental climate today:
I'm tired, ergo sluggish and slow. Yet I worked and even made banana bread.
I feel free from some loose-ends that I finally got tied up yesterday.
I feel determined to get things crossed off my long and stagnant to-do list.
I feel torn about how to use my time. Do I exercise or do DDR, read for book club or study group, blog or call a friend, clean house or do my church work? etc. etc. etc.
I feel blessed to have such choices, to be healthy and comfortable, free and at peace, and able to choose what to do.
I don't know tomorrow's forecast, but I'm making my list of things to do.
And if I remember to play "Feelin' Good", then I know it will be a sunny day.
"Teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom." Psalms 90:12
Sunday, July 23, 2006
X-Box
I can hardly say this with a straight face, but today I got an X-Box.
I am on the far side of middle-age, my kids are grown and gone, I HATE computer games, but today I got an X-Box.
The reason why I got an X-Box is because I got DDR! Most of you know by now that it stands for Dance Dance Revolution. It's a "game" where arrows on the screen tell you the steps and you dance them on a pad. It's a ton of fun.
I tried it at my daughter's where she had bought it for her daughter. Hard to tell whose it is.
Then my daughter-in-law got one.
Now I have one. Yay!!! I'm so excited!
It's not my birthday for a couple more weeks, but we celebrated early so we could share several family birthdays while we were all in town.
I used to be a dancer.
I took dancing lessons growing up: tap, ballet, tumbling and folk.
I was in a folk dance group and on the BYU Ballroom Dance Team.
I taught ballroom and folk dancing to family and friends.
Then I married a non-dancer.
I couldn't believe that a year after we were married we had a chance to dance, and I realized I married the man without knowing if he danced! Well, he dances well enough, but let's just say I packed my dancing shoes away and haven't needed them since.
It is true that if you don't use it, you lose it, and I've lost it.
But DDR has a beginner level, so I can start over again.
Not to be rude, but I gotta go dance.
It's a ton o' fun.
I am on the far side of middle-age, my kids are grown and gone, I HATE computer games, but today I got an X-Box.
The reason why I got an X-Box is because I got DDR! Most of you know by now that it stands for Dance Dance Revolution. It's a "game" where arrows on the screen tell you the steps and you dance them on a pad. It's a ton of fun.
I tried it at my daughter's where she had bought it for her daughter. Hard to tell whose it is.
Then my daughter-in-law got one.
Now I have one. Yay!!! I'm so excited!
It's not my birthday for a couple more weeks, but we celebrated early so we could share several family birthdays while we were all in town.
I used to be a dancer.
I took dancing lessons growing up: tap, ballet, tumbling and folk.
I was in a folk dance group and on the BYU Ballroom Dance Team.
I taught ballroom and folk dancing to family and friends.
Then I married a non-dancer.
I couldn't believe that a year after we were married we had a chance to dance, and I realized I married the man without knowing if he danced! Well, he dances well enough, but let's just say I packed my dancing shoes away and haven't needed them since.
It is true that if you don't use it, you lose it, and I've lost it.
But DDR has a beginner level, so I can start over again.
Not to be rude, but I gotta go dance.
It's a ton o' fun.
Thursday, July 20, 2006
The Age of Innocence
I’m not older than dirt yet. I may not even be over the hill, but I have a good view of the downside of it.
I remember when candy bars were a nickel, comic books were a dime, and houses were $12,000. I remember black and white television, computers that took up a whole room and required punch cards, and dial telephones with letters in their prefixes.
Things have changed since then.
The thing I miss most about the past is the loss of innocence.
I was a child before the 60’s when most conversations, books, TV and movies were innocent.
I grew up with Leave It To Beaver and Father Knows Best, family shows with no references to private matters. I don't believe I heard the word "sex" out loud before college, and even then it referred to someone's gender.
A five-year old today knows more about private things than I did at 18. Our sex-saturated society has lost its innocence in every corner.
John Bytheway likes to boast about owning every episode of The Andy Griffith Show. I never watched that show much, but he likes it because in the whole, very-long series there is not one instance of language, nudity, sex, or even innuendo.
Can we say that about one episode of Friends, or any TV show we watch? Or 5 minutes of any television? Not to mention books, movies, ads and casual conversations.
Like everyone else, my tolerance for it has increased, but I still don’t like it. I really don't.
In this one thing, I would prefer “the good old days”.
But, alas, there is no going back.
At least, not as a society.
But we can choose purity and innocence in our own lives.
We can safeguard it in the lives of our children.
"The whole probation that we are undergoing in mortality is to permit us to cleanse and perfect and purify our souls. It is to permit us to take evil and iniquity and carnality out of our souls." --Bruce R. McConkie
"Let us have an awesome reverence for purity, virtue, chastity,
that we may be pure as He is pure."
I remember when candy bars were a nickel, comic books were a dime, and houses were $12,000. I remember black and white television, computers that took up a whole room and required punch cards, and dial telephones with letters in their prefixes.
Things have changed since then.
The thing I miss most about the past is the loss of innocence.
I was a child before the 60’s when most conversations, books, TV and movies were innocent.
I grew up with Leave It To Beaver and Father Knows Best, family shows with no references to private matters. I don't believe I heard the word "sex" out loud before college, and even then it referred to someone's gender.
A five-year old today knows more about private things than I did at 18. Our sex-saturated society has lost its innocence in every corner.
John Bytheway likes to boast about owning every episode of The Andy Griffith Show. I never watched that show much, but he likes it because in the whole, very-long series there is not one instance of language, nudity, sex, or even innuendo.
Can we say that about one episode of Friends, or any TV show we watch? Or 5 minutes of any television? Not to mention books, movies, ads and casual conversations.
Like everyone else, my tolerance for it has increased, but I still don’t like it. I really don't.
In this one thing, I would prefer “the good old days”.
But, alas, there is no going back.
At least, not as a society.
But we can choose purity and innocence in our own lives.
We can safeguard it in the lives of our children.
"The whole probation that we are undergoing in mortality is to permit us to cleanse and perfect and purify our souls. It is to permit us to take evil and iniquity and carnality out of our souls." --Bruce R. McConkie
"Let us have an awesome reverence for purity, virtue, chastity,
that we may be pure as He is pure."
Wednesday, July 19, 2006
Riches
I've been rich and I've been poor, and rich is better.
I don't remember who said this, but I second the motion.
Money may not buy happiness, but it sure calms your nerves.
And makes life a lot easier.
I had lots of kids, and little money.
There were times when I babysat extra kids so we could buy food, didn't have a dollar to rent a movie, or gas to get to church. We must hold the world record for being stranded the most times in junker cars. We once lived in a place that had no address, no phone, and had no car at all. My husband hitchhiked every day many hours and many miles to look for a job. I walked out to the road and caught a ride with friends to church every Sunday with my four kids under 5. I'll never forget when I was making bread to feed my babies with the last bit of flour in the house, and while I was on the phone my helpful daughter dumped all the flour into the dough, ruining the bread and using up all of the precious flour. What a blessing it was when someone brought us a pound of hamburger and marshmallows to treat my kids. From there we moved into a 4-room house with six kids, and had eight when we moved out. My children grew up without having new clothes for school, going to McDonald's, or having store-bought sweetened cold cereal for breakfast.
I was very gratified when my eldest teen-aged daughter once said,
"We don't have any money, but we aren't poor."
She was right. We didn't have money, but we were rich in the things that mattered.
We were not deprived of love or friends or physical comforts.
We were busy and happy and productive.
We had faith and purpose and meaning to our lives.
And we were having a lot of fun.
We weren't poor at all.
Indeed, we were rich.
Debt
I'M FREE!!!
I went back to work part-time over 5 years ago, partly to get out of the house, and partly to get out of debt. My 10-hour a week job immediately jumped to nearly full-time and I got out of the house plenty. But it has taken me until this year to finally pay off all my personal credit card debt.
Why on earth did it take so long?
My debt wasn't excessive. Mostly it was car repairs and airplane tickets. But I just kept replenishing the debt (can you replenish a negative?). It was fun to take my kids shopping. (And there were college and mission expenses.)
I needed this quote hanging on my fridge AND my bathroom mirror:
"Interest never sleeps nor sickens nor dies; it works on Sundays and holidays; it never takes a vacation; it never rests; it is never laid off work; it never works reduced hours. It is as hard and soulless as a granite cliff. Once in debt, interest is your companion every minute of the day and night; you cannot shun it or slip away from it; you cannot dismiss it; it yields neither to entreaties, demands, or orders; and whenever you get in its way or cross its course or fail to meet its demands, it crushes you." -J. Reuben Clark
I've asked myself many times why it is we like to shop, to acquire things, and how we all came to be so materialistic. Where did we get our "ceaseless lust for the inessential."
We shop to define ourselves.
We shop to feed our fantasies.
We shop to be accepted and belong to groups.
We shop for its sense of personal control and power.
We shop to celebrate holidays and people and events.
We shop to be up on the latest and greatest.
We shop so people will like us.
We shop for entertainment.
We shop for the attention we get.
We shop to show our position in society.
We shop to make ourselves more attractive.
We shop because we can; we have the freedom of time and money.
We shop because we don't want to miss out on the excitement of life.
We forget this basic fact:
Money is an article which may be used as a universal provider for everything--except happiness, and a universal passport to everywhere--except heaven. --Wall Street Journal
Money buys you food, but not appetite, medicine, but not health, acquaintances, but not friends. It can buy a house, but not a home, a bed, but not sleep, a clock, but not time, a book, but not wisdom, position, but not respect.
Recent studies have shown that instead of buying happiness, money sometimes buys unhappiness, dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, depression and even a greater tendency towards illness.
I don't know how much I'll change my shopping habits, but I know that I feel free--free from debt, from interest, from obligations that eat up my income. And I want to stay that way.
Being free FROM that, I am now free FOR other things.
I just have to figure out what those things are.
I went back to work part-time over 5 years ago, partly to get out of the house, and partly to get out of debt. My 10-hour a week job immediately jumped to nearly full-time and I got out of the house plenty. But it has taken me until this year to finally pay off all my personal credit card debt.
Why on earth did it take so long?
My debt wasn't excessive. Mostly it was car repairs and airplane tickets. But I just kept replenishing the debt (can you replenish a negative?). It was fun to take my kids shopping. (And there were college and mission expenses.)
I needed this quote hanging on my fridge AND my bathroom mirror:
"Interest never sleeps nor sickens nor dies; it works on Sundays and holidays; it never takes a vacation; it never rests; it is never laid off work; it never works reduced hours. It is as hard and soulless as a granite cliff. Once in debt, interest is your companion every minute of the day and night; you cannot shun it or slip away from it; you cannot dismiss it; it yields neither to entreaties, demands, or orders; and whenever you get in its way or cross its course or fail to meet its demands, it crushes you." -J. Reuben Clark
I've asked myself many times why it is we like to shop, to acquire things, and how we all came to be so materialistic. Where did we get our "ceaseless lust for the inessential."
We shop to define ourselves.
We shop to feed our fantasies.
We shop to be accepted and belong to groups.
We shop for its sense of personal control and power.
We shop to celebrate holidays and people and events.
We shop to be up on the latest and greatest.
We shop so people will like us.
We shop for entertainment.
We shop for the attention we get.
We shop to show our position in society.
We shop to make ourselves more attractive.
We shop because we can; we have the freedom of time and money.
We shop because we don't want to miss out on the excitement of life.
We forget this basic fact:
Money is an article which may be used as a universal provider for everything--except happiness, and a universal passport to everywhere--except heaven. --Wall Street Journal
Money buys you food, but not appetite, medicine, but not health, acquaintances, but not friends. It can buy a house, but not a home, a bed, but not sleep, a clock, but not time, a book, but not wisdom, position, but not respect.
Recent studies have shown that instead of buying happiness, money sometimes buys unhappiness, dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, depression and even a greater tendency towards illness.
I don't know how much I'll change my shopping habits, but I know that I feel free--free from debt, from interest, from obligations that eat up my income. And I want to stay that way.
Being free FROM that, I am now free FOR other things.
I just have to figure out what those things are.
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
The Red Dock
I grew up on a lake in Washington state.
When I think of Home I see the view of the lake out the picture window at the front—or was it the back?--of our house. In that picture is the Red Dock.
Memories flood my mind of things from another time.
I remember my sister almost drowning, scabs from my new fins, teenage ski parties, fireworks, and watching my own children pick lily pads.
The snapshots in my siblings’ minds must differ from mine,
yet so much time and space were shared together.
Summers we somersaulted down the hill to the edge of the dock.
Winters we made snow angels and walked out onto the frozen lake.
The seasons came and went.
The Big House was home to the ten of us.
The Little House was home to various family and friends.
Some of us came back with our children to live on the lake for a time.
Many things happened over the years in the lives of those who lived there. But everything seemed to settle in the view of the lake and the red dock.
The dock eventually lost its awning, faded to sky-gray, and got repainted. It housed a dinghy, then a small motorboat, eventually ski boat, and later my brother’s jet skis. Often it sat empty and forlorn.
A second dock was added.
Both houses were razed, and another one built.
New houses sprung up around the lake.
It is the nature of life to change.
But some things stay the same.
To see the lake still brings a sense of peace.
To sit on the Red Dock is to come Home.
When I think of Home I see the view of the lake out the picture window at the front—or was it the back?--of our house. In that picture is the Red Dock.
Memories flood my mind of things from another time.
I remember my sister almost drowning, scabs from my new fins, teenage ski parties, fireworks, and watching my own children pick lily pads.
The snapshots in my siblings’ minds must differ from mine,
yet so much time and space were shared together.
Summers we somersaulted down the hill to the edge of the dock.
Winters we made snow angels and walked out onto the frozen lake.
The seasons came and went.
The Big House was home to the ten of us.
The Little House was home to various family and friends.
Some of us came back with our children to live on the lake for a time.
Many things happened over the years in the lives of those who lived there. But everything seemed to settle in the view of the lake and the red dock.
The dock eventually lost its awning, faded to sky-gray, and got repainted. It housed a dinghy, then a small motorboat, eventually ski boat, and later my brother’s jet skis. Often it sat empty and forlorn.
A second dock was added.
Both houses were razed, and another one built.
New houses sprung up around the lake.
It is the nature of life to change.
But some things stay the same.
To see the lake still brings a sense of peace.
To sit on the Red Dock is to come Home.
Monday, July 17, 2006
Mockingbird
I have a mockingbird nesting in my chimney.
They are called that because they make/mock the sounds of many different birds. It's like they don't know what kind of bird they are.
It reminds me of the movie "Runaway Bride" where Julia Robert's character doesn't know who she is, and she changes in every relationship.
I've known people that sing a different song depending on what group of people they are with. I've wondered if I'm one of them.
Adaptability is great. Getting along with people is too.
And it's true that certain people bring out certain parts of your personality.
But it makes me wonder, who is the real me? Who is the real you?
Who are we when we are all alone?
I like to hear my mockingbird sing. I like its many voices.
Maybe, like me, he's searching for who he is.
Maybe he knows who he is. Maybe he is all those songs he sings.
"Let us get our instruments tightly strung and our melodies sweetly sung. Let us not die with our music still in us." --Spencer W. Kimball
They are called that because they make/mock the sounds of many different birds. It's like they don't know what kind of bird they are.
It reminds me of the movie "Runaway Bride" where Julia Robert's character doesn't know who she is, and she changes in every relationship.
I've known people that sing a different song depending on what group of people they are with. I've wondered if I'm one of them.
Adaptability is great. Getting along with people is too.
And it's true that certain people bring out certain parts of your personality.
But it makes me wonder, who is the real me? Who is the real you?
Who are we when we are all alone?
I like to hear my mockingbird sing. I like its many voices.
Maybe, like me, he's searching for who he is.
Maybe he knows who he is. Maybe he is all those songs he sings.
"Let us get our instruments tightly strung and our melodies sweetly sung. Let us not die with our music still in us." --Spencer W. Kimball
Sunday, July 16, 2006
Choose
The topic in Church on Sunday was agency. It reminded me of a quote I used to keep on my fridge:
A man cannot chase two rabbits,
for he will catch the one and lose the other,
or he will lose them both.
This seems to me another way of saying,
"No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon." (Matthew 6:24)
We try so hard to keep a foot in each world, the temporal and the spiritual.
Then when our legs start to spread, like having one foot on the dock and the other in a moving boat, we realize how easy it is to lose our balance.
We can't have our cake and eat it too.
We can't always have the praise of the world and please God.
We can't follow popular opinion and follow Christ.
We can't adapt ourselves to a telestial world and be prepared for a Celestial.
It's like chasing two rabbits.
I don't want to be empty-handed at the end of my life, having missed both rabbits. So I will choose now which rabbit to chase, which Master to serve.
There's really only one choice.
A man cannot chase two rabbits,
for he will catch the one and lose the other,
or he will lose them both.
This seems to me another way of saying,
"No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon." (Matthew 6:24)
We try so hard to keep a foot in each world, the temporal and the spiritual.
Then when our legs start to spread, like having one foot on the dock and the other in a moving boat, we realize how easy it is to lose our balance.
We can't have our cake and eat it too.
We can't always have the praise of the world and please God.
We can't follow popular opinion and follow Christ.
We can't adapt ourselves to a telestial world and be prepared for a Celestial.
It's like chasing two rabbits.
I don't want to be empty-handed at the end of my life, having missed both rabbits. So I will choose now which rabbit to chase, which Master to serve.
There's really only one choice.
Saturday, July 15, 2006
Whining
It is so hot here,
and my life isn't what I want it to be,
and I'm not what I wish I was, and....
I like to whine and complain as much as the next person -- well, I hope not as much as some people. It validates me; it feeds my humanness.
But something about it always feels uncomfortable, like an ill-fitting garment. It's just wrong.
It's something about missing the roses for the thorns.
God meant for us to be happy. That can only happen when we notice and appreciate the good in ourselves, in others, in events, and in our lives.
And so I try to remember this quote from The Talmud:
“A person will be called to account on Judgment Day for every permissible thing he might have enjoyed but did not.”
So, Self, no whining.
Count your blessings and have joy!
“God does not dwell in gloom and melancholy, but in light and love.” Ezra Taft Benson
and my life isn't what I want it to be,
and I'm not what I wish I was, and....
I like to whine and complain as much as the next person -- well, I hope not as much as some people. It validates me; it feeds my humanness.
But something about it always feels uncomfortable, like an ill-fitting garment. It's just wrong.
It's something about missing the roses for the thorns.
Complaining is maximizing the good things of the past andWhining, it seems to me, is almost always evidence of a lack of appreciation.
minimizing the good things of the present.
God meant for us to be happy. That can only happen when we notice and appreciate the good in ourselves, in others, in events, and in our lives.
And so I try to remember this quote from The Talmud:
“A person will be called to account on Judgment Day for every permissible thing he might have enjoyed but did not.”
So, Self, no whining.
Count your blessings and have joy!
“God does not dwell in gloom and melancholy, but in light and love.” Ezra Taft Benson
Friday, July 14, 2006
Just thinkin'
Every time I get on the blog I think warmly of Jennifer.
I think of how sweet she was to set up a blog for me so I didn't have to figure out how to do it.
I think of her friendships and generosity that got her into blogging in the first place.
I think how nice she was to drag us in, and put us in touch with each other.
I think how great it is to share, and to respond to each other.
The silly thing is, I'm so glad every time I log on that she chose a username and password I can remember! That means a lot to me.
("Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most. ")
And I can't think of Jennifer without thinking of Jill and all that she is and shares with us, and all the other great blogging friends that enrich our lives.
Every time I blog, I think these things.
I thought it was time I let y'all know.
Thanks! I love you.
I think of how sweet she was to set up a blog for me so I didn't have to figure out how to do it.
I think of her friendships and generosity that got her into blogging in the first place.
I think how nice she was to drag us in, and put us in touch with each other.
I think how great it is to share, and to respond to each other.
The silly thing is, I'm so glad every time I log on that she chose a username and password I can remember! That means a lot to me.
("Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most. ")
And I can't think of Jennifer without thinking of Jill and all that she is and shares with us, and all the other great blogging friends that enrich our lives.
Every time I blog, I think these things.
I thought it was time I let y'all know.
Thanks! I love you.
Thursday, July 13, 2006
Things that make me happy
One of the most fun things we've done in our family is make happy lists.
Here's a part of my never-before-shared list.
My children getting along
Feeling the Spirit
Being all alone in the middle of the night
Taking off on a trip
7-Up and Raspberry Sherbet Float
Candy corn
Snow--if I don't have to go out in it and I have power and food
A car that works
A good conversation
Christmas--what I was a child but not as the mom
My mother's face
Ferry boats in Washington
Brownies
Studying for a talk or lesson
Hot apple cider with buttered graham crackers
Mary Engelbreit
Aria from the Magic Flute by Mozart
Crossword puzzles, if they're not too hard
Really good bread
Mountains
Hot Russian Tang on a snowy day or when I'm sick
Really good Washington fruit--raspberries, strawberries, or peaches
A good book
Quiet late-night talks with my children or grandchildren
A child's laughter
Grilled cheese sandwich, regular
Grilled cheese sandwich on sour dough bread with 3 kinds of cheese and a slice of tomato
E-mail
The memory of my own box of Campfire marshmallows in my stocking one Christmas
Being appreciated
Divinity
Comfortable knit clothing
My "Cave" which is my own space
Kindness, thoughtfulness, and goodness
A new idea
Really bright colors
Being with my sisters
Being with my kids
Being with my grandchildren
Dancing, or watching others dance
Humble people
Variety--new sights and sounds and flavors
When someone does my dishes
Peanut Butter toast with Miracle Whip
New clothes or shoes
Remembering the summer of our folk dance show and "The Prom"
Phase Ten, when it doesn't make anyone sad or mad; otherwise, Scattergories
Dropping off to sleep when you are really tired
Being needed
Here's a part of my never-before-shared list.
My children getting along
Feeling the Spirit
Being all alone in the middle of the night
Taking off on a trip
7-Up and Raspberry Sherbet Float
Candy corn
Snow--if I don't have to go out in it and I have power and food
A car that works
A good conversation
Christmas--what I was a child but not as the mom
My mother's face
Ferry boats in Washington
Brownies
Studying for a talk or lesson
Hot apple cider with buttered graham crackers
Mary Engelbreit
Aria from the Magic Flute by Mozart
Crossword puzzles, if they're not too hard
Really good bread
Mountains
Hot Russian Tang on a snowy day or when I'm sick
Really good Washington fruit--raspberries, strawberries, or peaches
A good book
Quiet late-night talks with my children or grandchildren
A child's laughter
Grilled cheese sandwich, regular
Grilled cheese sandwich on sour dough bread with 3 kinds of cheese and a slice of tomato
The memory of my own box of Campfire marshmallows in my stocking one Christmas
Being appreciated
Divinity
Comfortable knit clothing
My "Cave" which is my own space
Kindness, thoughtfulness, and goodness
A new idea
Really bright colors
Being with my sisters
Being with my kids
Being with my grandchildren
Dancing, or watching others dance
Humble people
Variety--new sights and sounds and flavors
When someone does my dishes
Peanut Butter toast with Miracle Whip
New clothes or shoes
Remembering the summer of our folk dance show and "The Prom"
Phase Ten, when it doesn't make anyone sad or mad; otherwise, Scattergories
Dropping off to sleep when you are really tired
Being needed
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
Lessons from the Lost Tribes
Last night our Relief Society Enrichment study group met. The topic was The Lost Ten Tribes of Israel. It wasn't the most exciting thing I've studied, at least in the beginning. But these things have a way of picking up as you begin to see the big picture and how exciting it all is.
Along the way, I learned a few things, such as....
1. The Lost Tribes are not lost to the Lord. And neither are we.
No matter how alone we feel, how separated or different or disenfranchised, the Lord knows where we are, how we are, and what we are.
2. The Lord has spectacular plans for His children.
In spite of our wickedness, our bad choices, our inadequacies, He has quite a show planned for us, and a Promised Land prepared for us at the end of our journey.
3. There is purpose to everything that happens.
We may be driven out, away or towards something not of our choosing, but it just might put us in a place or circumstance that will be for our blessing or the blessing of others.
4. Whatever our circumstance in life, there is always the choice to be made to follow the Lord or to follow the world. And those choices make all the difference to us and to those around us,
in this world and in the next.
5. We really are one big family, with God as our Father and Jesus as our Brother, and where e'er our paths may take us, we can find our way Home.
In my searching, did I find the Lost Tribes? No.
But I found a part of me, a part of my forgotten identity.
I found I was part of the House of Israel, of a holy nation, of a peculiar people.
I found a sense of belonging to a family rich with tradition and faith.
I found the great love of the Father and Jehovah for all of their children.
I found purpose in our responsibility to gather those who are lost.
I found a great destiny, if I make and keep sacred covenants.
I found the way Home.
Along the way, I learned a few things, such as....
1. The Lost Tribes are not lost to the Lord. And neither are we.
No matter how alone we feel, how separated or different or disenfranchised, the Lord knows where we are, how we are, and what we are.
2. The Lord has spectacular plans for His children.
In spite of our wickedness, our bad choices, our inadequacies, He has quite a show planned for us, and a Promised Land prepared for us at the end of our journey.
3. There is purpose to everything that happens.
We may be driven out, away or towards something not of our choosing, but it just might put us in a place or circumstance that will be for our blessing or the blessing of others.
4. Whatever our circumstance in life, there is always the choice to be made to follow the Lord or to follow the world. And those choices make all the difference to us and to those around us,
in this world and in the next.
5. We really are one big family, with God as our Father and Jesus as our Brother, and where e'er our paths may take us, we can find our way Home.
In my searching, did I find the Lost Tribes? No.
But I found a part of me, a part of my forgotten identity.
I found I was part of the House of Israel, of a holy nation, of a peculiar people.
I found a sense of belonging to a family rich with tradition and faith.
I found the great love of the Father and Jehovah for all of their children.
I found purpose in our responsibility to gather those who are lost.
I found a great destiny, if I make and keep sacred covenants.
I found the way Home.
"To believe in God is to know that all the rules will be
fair and that there will be wonderful surprises."
Talent of Spirituality
Of all the quotes I've read and collected, and that have been the guideposts of my life, there is one that stands out above the rest for me. I got it out of a Young Women's book years ago. It is:
"The greatest talent that you will develop upon this earth will be the talent of spirituality.
It will be the means of achieving everything in this life that is really worthwhile."
In high school, all of my siblings were very active in school. They were cheerleaders, drill team members, class presidents and student body officers. I chose at that time of my life to put my time and efforts into church instead of school. I have held callings since I was twelve years old.
It doesn't mean I am better than my siblings, then or now.
It doesn't mean I have a particular talent for spirituality, or that I have developed it as I should have.
But I have found that the things that matter most in life are of a spiritual nature.
Spiritual things have brought me knowledge, understanding, personal growth, and the most satisfying and enriching of experiences.
Truly, everything that is worthwhile in my life has come by way of spiritual things.
Imagine my surprise when I recently came upon this quote by Bruce R. McConkie:
"The greatest and most important talent or capacity that any of the spirit children of the Father could gain is the talent of spirituality. Most of those who gained this talent were chosen to come to earth as members of the house of Israel. They were elected to receive the blessings of Abraham." They are the sheep that know the voice of their Shepherd.
There are many things that we can do in and with our lives.
There are many talents that we can and should develop and share.
A talent, however small, can be enlarged.
A talent, to be improved, takes work.
What talent, gifts from God, would the Lord rather help magnify than that of spirituality?
Things that are spiritual are of deep import and ever-lasting.
They are the things that matter most.
They are what will bring us that which is most worthwhile, now and forever.
"The greatest talent that you will develop upon this earth will be the talent of spirituality.
It will be the means of achieving everything in this life that is really worthwhile."
In high school, all of my siblings were very active in school. They were cheerleaders, drill team members, class presidents and student body officers. I chose at that time of my life to put my time and efforts into church instead of school. I have held callings since I was twelve years old.
It doesn't mean I am better than my siblings, then or now.
It doesn't mean I have a particular talent for spirituality, or that I have developed it as I should have.
But I have found that the things that matter most in life are of a spiritual nature.
Spiritual things have brought me knowledge, understanding, personal growth, and the most satisfying and enriching of experiences.
Truly, everything that is worthwhile in my life has come by way of spiritual things.
Imagine my surprise when I recently came upon this quote by Bruce R. McConkie:
"The greatest and most important talent or capacity that any of the spirit children of the Father could gain is the talent of spirituality. Most of those who gained this talent were chosen to come to earth as members of the house of Israel. They were elected to receive the blessings of Abraham." They are the sheep that know the voice of their Shepherd.
There are many things that we can do in and with our lives.
There are many talents that we can and should develop and share.
A talent, however small, can be enlarged.
A talent, to be improved, takes work.
What talent, gifts from God, would the Lord rather help magnify than that of spirituality?
Things that are spiritual are of deep import and ever-lasting.
They are the things that matter most.
They are what will bring us that which is most worthwhile, now and forever.
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